Let's be honest. You've been there before and some of us are currently in this space dealing with life circumstances. This place often speaks to a sense of stagnation, discouragement, and helplessness. What "place" are we referring to? It's called...frustration. Perhaps, you want a situation to change in your life that's beyond your control? It could be that the situations are trying to change you! Or maybe your feelings of frustration are revealing something about you that is missing. Join Eric and Tacondra in this courageous conversation about fighting frustration or choosing to become aware of the truths your frustrations are trying to teach you.
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Let's be honest. You've been there before and some of us are currently in this space dealing with life circumstances. This place often speaks to a sense of stagnation, discouragement, and helplessness. What "place" are we referring to? It's called...frustration. Perhaps, you want a situation to change in your life that's beyond your control? It could be that the situations are trying to change you! Or maybe your feelings of frustration are revealing something about you that is missing. Join Eric and Tacondra in this courageous conversation about fighting frustration or choosing to become aware of the truths your frustrations are trying to teach you.
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Hey everybody. My name is Eric. My name is Tacondra. Welcome to building with the Browns Browns. We are super excited to bring you fresh revelation and perspectives based on our life experiences. Yes, we are all about laying foundational truths regarding marriage love. Faith, family, finances, and more that. Are built to last. We hope you enjoy. Building with the Browns. Hey, you.<Laugh>, you ain't gonna sing the song today. I was. Waiting. I was about to make up one, but I don't know no songs that really got the word frustrated in it. Mm. Okay. I don't either. <laugh>. I'm so frustrated. I don't know. No, no, I don't know. Well, oh, well, Hey everybody.<laugh> welcome back to another episode of building with the Browns. As you can see, he kind of gave you an idea as to what we're gonna be talking about. And I honestly feel like this is something that's a lot of people are feeling. If you are a human being, you have been right. You are, or maybe you're not mm-hmm<affirmative> frustration. Are you. Frustrated. Frustrated. Frustrated. Mm-hmm <affirmative> built up frustrations, frustrated about a circumstance, you know, frustrated about what? Yeah. So we kind of wanna talk about, you know, the feeling of frustration and how to face those frustrations and reveal or even understand what the frustration is pointing to within you. Cuz I always think, um, or I believe that frustrations or pressure that we feel, it always points to something, you know, pressure points to something that needs to be changed right in your life. If you're feeling a pressure on you about something and or the pressure outside of you is being put on you, pressure points to something that needs to be changed or transformed in your life. And so many times we missed the opportunity for God to reveal things and help us heal. Whether it's certain habits, whether it's, you know, um, your mindset, anything mm-hmm <affirmative> we missed the opportunity because we fail to realize what that pressure, what that frustration is trying to change in us. Right. And a lot of times it's, it's unresolved problems and it's, it's like our unfulfilled needs that we get frustrated. Right? Yeah. That's a good one. So, so that's definitely the first thing let's talk about that. Right? So frustration can point to an unfulfilled need within you. Mm-hmm <affirmative> my, my I'm frustrated because um, my love tank is empty. Mm-hmm <affirmative> I'm frustrated because I don't have food, water, come on. The essentials, come. On. The essentials, you know, I'm frustrated because Yeah. Or I have relationships that aren't meeting certain needs right. In my life, in my soul, in my heart, you know? Um, that's a huge one. Yeah. And let's just keep it a buck we're halfway through this year. And some of us had some lofty expectations for 2022. Mm. And you ain't really moved the needle. Some. Lofty expectations. Sure. Some things that you. Wait, wait, wait, wait. Cuz I, I think you, you scooting ahead. Let's talk about these needs. Okay. Expectations, I believe is another reason why we're frustrated, but let's talk about. Needs. Okay. Let's stay with, with the needs then. I'm. Sorry. Gonna stick with the needs. Yeah. Holy spirit. Moving too fast. Let's stick with the needs. We'll go back to expectations. Cuz that is another key. Right, right, right. Point. But let's stick with the needs. So, so the needs of, you know, like security. Yeah. Hello. My, my, my. Finances. Yeah. I'm gonna say finances and if y'all know us and y'all, don't listen to our podcast when your money funny. Woo. Your feelings. Get. Funny. Your feelings get funny. Your feelings might be funny cuz your money funny. Yes. You frustrated. You're frustrated. Yeah. Disillusion and hard to get along with <laugh> <laugh> but that's the thing, you know, when those needs go unmet or there's a broken need, frustration is always gonna point to it. Right. But if you're not wise or mature enough to time to really understand what that frustration is pointing to you just gonna remain frustrated. Or you just gonna tap out.<Laugh> yeah. And I think a lot of us, you know, we, I know for myself, like when you talking about needs, it's like, okay, what do I really need? Yeah. You know? And now it's separation of needs versus wants. We want a lot of things to go our way, but we don't necessarily need them to go that way. Mm. Or, or we don't necessarily have what we want. Yeah. You know what I mean? That frustration I'm. Getting. What you want. Exactly. And so one let's let's identify what our needs are versus what we want. You know? Cause I want a lot of stuff, you know what I mean? I want a man cave. That's got AC and a bartender that served me Virgin drinks.<Laugh>.<Laugh> y'all thought I was gonna say liquor.<Laugh>. Okay. This gotta have a little bit in it. Wine, little wine. Okay. Whatever. Anyway, but no you, but yeah. You know what I mean? Like it's those things that I want, but do I necessarily need them? Yeah. You know? And, and so I think our needs are not always met because we miscategorized them. Mm. Especially when it comes to God. Mm. Cause a lot of times we get frustrated with ourself, but really we frustrated at God because we prayed for something. And we didn't get what we. Wanted and we didn't and we didn't get it when we wanted. When you wanted it. Yeah. That's where the frustration comes in. Cuz you know the Bible say, you know, they that wait on the Lord. Who, who is they? Cause I <laugh>, I'm having a hard time here. Jesus, help me a hard time waiting. I know you see your boy down here struggling. Yeah. You know, but in his time in his, in his will, he operates outside of time. And sometimes it's hard for us to conceive that because we're stuck in time. We're stuck in time. We're stuck in, what's in front of us. Mm-hmm <affirmative> what we see. So that's another thing with frustration. You're walking by sight and not by faith. Right. And that'll leave you frustrated, especially when You've been praying for mm-hmm <affirmative> you know, continuously and it just doesn't seem to be unfolding or happening in your life when you're putting a demand on God for something, or it's a promise that he's made and it just hasn't come to pass. Right. You get frustrated because now it's out of your control. Mm-hmm <affirmative> I mean, you can only, you can only do so much. Right. But it's God who has to perform his word. He has to perform. Right. What he's promised and you have to just believe that he is fully able to perform it. And he is, he is, come on. That's a good reminder. But it's still the it's out of my control. Right. And I'm demanding this, I want this, I want it now. Mm-hmm<affirmative> we like little babies. Yeah. You know, I want what I want and I want it now. Right? Like JG G well Wentworth, is it JG? Wentworth? Yeah. Oh is that worth 8, 7, 7 cash. Now I need my cash now. Right. Don't be acting like a little, but that's straight up that's yeah. Paints the, the picture of immaturity and how we can act like children. Yeah. Sometimes when it comes to God and demanding certain things. And when he like, no, not yet grow up a little bit. Yeah. And we frustrated cuz we, we gotta mature so that when we get the thing that we wanted, right. We don't, I was gonna say flounder it, I don't know. I must be hungry. I'm thinking about fish. <laugh>. What's the word flounder. It like you don't fumble it or you don't, you know, mishandle it well. Mishandle. It, you know the prime example of this, that, that just made me think about when you talk about being a child and, and how, you know, we can want something. I just remember as a child wanting to be an adult mm-hmm <affirmative> wanting to be a grown folk wanting to be able to sit at the grown folk table. Right. Mm-hmm <affirmative> little did I know being a grown folk came with bills, came responsibility, came, kids, came, jobs, came accountability. Like ain't nobody tell me all of that. Mm-hmm <affirmative>. And so what I'm getting at is that thing that you always think you want, you think you want, when you get it, don't complain about. It. Mm yeah. That same level of frustration you had waiting on it.<Laugh> now you got. It. Oh, you better have that same level of gratitude and Absolutely. Don't cuz that's the thing about instant gratification. Mm-hmm <affirmative> like, we'll want something want something so bad and then the moment we get it, it's like it's shortlived yeah. You gotta keep that level of gratefulness mm-hmm <affirmative> and gratitude. When you receive that thing and it better stretch out that gratitude. Better stretch out. As long as your frustration did while you were waiting.<laugh> I'm talking to myself. Yeah. Lord. When, when I receive that, which I prayed for, hello? Somebody. Yeah. Give me the grace to, to remain grateful <laugh> and, and have an attitude of gratitude for the length of time that I had to wait sometimes in frustration for that thing that I prayed for. Absolutely. Yep. Because it's coming anyway. It's coming. If God, if it's for you and God has it in his will for you to have it. It's coming anyway. Yeah. Just gotta believe it. You just gotta believe it. And then like you said, mature, that's it. Right. And so moving from needs. Now we wanna talk about maybe the expectations. We can move the expectations. I did wanna say this mm-hmm <affirmative> how do you know if you're wrestling with frustration because of something you're needing that's missing. So I would ask myself like, what do I, or what need do I have that I'm not getting and am I trying to fulfill this need on my own? Am I expecting this to be fulfilled by others? Mm. You know, that's a great question to kind of ask, okay, am I frustrated? Because I'm, I need something and I'm not getting it and present that to God. Like, even in that, ask God to help you meet the needs of others. Cause sometimes, and you're serving, right? Yeah. You're able to allow God to fill you up in, in areas where there's a void or something that's missing. If you listened to the last podcast, I talked about serving out of your need. Mm. You need something. Right. Just like the, the prophet Elijah, when he came to the widow at Zepe. I think, I hope I'm saying that. Right. Sounds good. No, that's it. And she, she had that, you know, oil and that flour mm-hmm <affirmative> he wanted a cake and she was like, this is all I got. Right. But she served out of her need of needing more food for her and her son and gave right. What the prophet asked of her and God in return filled her need. Yeah. So that's a great thing to do, consider that serve, um, out of your need and help someone else. And in that, while you're doing that trust that God knows what your need is and he's able to fulfill him. Absolutely. So you said we have either unmet mm-hmm<affirmative> expectations or I'm gonna say we have unhealthy expectations. Yeah. Let's tackle the unhealthy ones. Well. Okay. An unhealthy expectation is not a real expectation. Right? It's it's one that you couldn't even meet yourself, right? Yes. And that's unhealthy. Very much. So. I like to say we, we live in a fantasy world. Mm-hmm <affirmative> where we got so much imagery with movies and songs and these celebrities and all of these different things. And a lot of our expectations are what we see on this, this surface mm-hmm <affirmative> on somebody else's life. I expect somebody in my life to treat me like they're treating you in your life, but you don't know how they doing what they're doing when you don't see 'em mm-hmm <affirmative> you know? And so a lot of this stuff is shining on the outside, but it's molded on the inside. Counterfeit it's counterfeit. It's manufactured. Absolutely. Yeah. That's why I love that. The, uh, there's a guy who says the grass is not greener on the other side. It's green where you. Water it. It's green where you water it. Yeah. Right. And then on the other side they probably got turf. Yep. I say that all the time. I see it's probably turf on the other side. It ain't even real grass. Go put that thing up, go pick it up, pull at it, put it up to the lights. Right. That's how you determine if it's for. Real cattle fit light. We talking about the word. That unhealthy thing, man. That's that's just, it's it's not healthy for you. Yeah. And it's not healthy for those that are around you because then you, you force them to believe that they're coming up short in that area that they weren't never meant to even fulfill. Yeah. Your expectation wasn't clearly communicated. Right. It's like being a husband and a wife, right. Like, okay. I'm about to tell myself, come on, but don't do that.<laugh> but there were plenty of times and still it still happens. Just being honest, where I expect my husband to know certain things. I expect him to read my mind and to know what I want. Right. And to know how to do certain things when they, you know, need to be done. I, I just naturally maybe that's just because I've been with him for so long. Yeah. But it's not an excuse for me not to express clearly what my expectations are, because at the end, when he doesn't measure up to the expectation, I'm frustrated. He looking confused like, well, I try, but what did I do? What, what did I do wrong? Right. Why didn't you tell me? And I'm like, cuz you supposed to know <laugh> you just automatically you supposed. To know. Right. And look, fellas, I've been looking online, especially Amazon to try to find that newest mind reader. Okay. I figured like when it come out, we gonna be the ones that get that thing for real. So we gonna have to turn it on, but it's okay. Non prime.<Laugh> but no, that that's really what happens when you have unhealthy expectations, right? Unhealthy expectations or expectations. You aren't clearly communicating mm-hmm<affirmative> to those around you or those that you expect to meet those right. Those needs. So. Yeah. So the flip side of that is the unmet yeah. Expectations. And to me, I feel like those are expectations that probably were communicated. Right? You set it out, you said it say, Hey, I, I expect this from you or I'm looking for this from you. Or you've said it to yourself, you know, I'm looking to go to the gym, I'm gonna lose 10 pounds, whatever the case may be. And then when that thing that you communicated to when they come up short, now that frustration sets them because it's like, I told. You, I think also you have to cuz communication is a two way thing, right? Mm-hmm <affirmative>, there's a receiver. Right. And there's a transmitter. So when it comes to setting expectations, even when making them clear, the other person has to agree with those expectations. Absolutely. And if there's no agreement, mm-hmm <affirmative>, then that leaves room for misunderstanding and like, and frustration. Right? Like I'm frustrated. Well, did that person even agree to meet your expectations? Mm-hmm <affirmative> I don't care how clear you clearly you communicated it. Right. Did they agree with it? Did they agree that it was reasonable? Mm-hmm <affirmative> did they say, you know what? I can actually put a foot forward in meeting those expectations, right? Yeah. You know, so I think that's something that we all need to think about when it comes to unmet expectations. It's okay. Well, where did I go wrong? You know, reevaluate, reevaluate the situation. Did I even ask you<laugh> if you were able to meet that expectation, sometimes you gotta lower your expectations. I'm a person. I got high expectations, people and myself, and I know I fall short. I fall short all the time. My expectations of myself mm-hmm <affirmative> and standard that I myself don't even absolutely meet up to. Yeah. The first word that just popped in my head about, I may be even jumping ahead, but grace, cuz God expects us to live a life that's holy and acceptable to him. Right. But we fall short all the time and he knows, but he extends grace. Mm. And so a lot of our frustration is in areas where we haven't even extended the grace to that person to one, get to a place to where they meet your expectation. Mm-hmm <affirmative> right. Or even that grace to basically give to yourself, like mm-hmm <affirmative> you're not gonna get it the first time. I mean, the first time you got on a bicycle, you didn't, you ain't speed off and you know, win the tour of the. Fronts. I feel. We fail multiple times, but we learned how to, what we learned, how to get up mm-hmm <affirmative> and we learned how to fight through the frustration of not knowing how to do something until we got to the point to where we knew how to do it. Right. Right. And so same thing, God deals with us. He's he's giving us an extended grace, like over and over and over and over. And he's like, okay, I know you're gonna fall. I know you gonna bump your head. And I told you, you're gonna do it anyway, but I'm gonna extend you this grace, you don't deserve it. You ain't earned it, but I'm giving it to you. Mm-hmm <affirmative> right. And so as human beings and human doings, what we have to do is extend grace to us. And that's sometimes the hardest thing to do because we don't have what patience. Mm-hmm <affirmative> or we just expect other people to be perfect <laugh> and while we're yeah. Broken <laugh>. All right. So we're gonna take a short break. Short break, and we'll be back. We got back with some more pointers on frustration right after this. So you guys, we have been getting tons of questions about how you can start your own podcast. You know, whether you're looking for a new marketing channel, you have a message on your heart that you wanna share with the world. Or if you just think it might be fun to have your own talk show, podcasting is an easy, inexpensive way and a fun way to expand your reach. Online. 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So back to our conversation about frustration and what why you may find yourself frustrated and what that frustration is trying to, to teach you or how it's trying to change you. So our last one was. Unmet and unhealthy expectations. Expectations. So our next one, we're gonna talk about our. Unhealthy boundaries. Or a lack of. Or a lack of boundaries. Right? Absolutely. So have you ever lived your life thinking that you just had to please everybody? Oh, absolutely. And like you accept what everyone else wants without acknowledging your own personal convictions or needs. It leaves you frustrated when you don't know how to set boundaries. Mm-hmm <affirmative> for yourself and set boundaries for other people. One thing I like about boundaries is this boundaries tell you what belongs to you. Mm-hmm <affirmative> and what belongs to somebody else. Yeah. When you own a home, they have a boundary line. Yeah. Around your property, right? Them people, what? Them, people get the line, people, the map, people, whoever them, people is. Engineers. <laugh> the land. The county. Observers. They know where your property line begins and where it ends. Right. And so you're responsible for what's on, on you mm-hmm <affirmative> and not for what what's, what somebody else belongs to somebody else. Right. I've found myself frustrated personally from pleasing people to the point of where I've disregarded my own boundaries, or I just never said it. So people thought that they could just come and dump on me. Right. Dump their emotional baggage, whatever it, you know, may have been just dump it on me. And I'm sitting there just taking it, taking it mm-hmm <affirmative> and then I'm mad. Like, wait a minute. Why am I feeling frustrated? Like, because you don't have boundaries. Absolutely. I mean, just think here's a good picture. Imagine someone driving by your property and just dumping trash in your yard.<laugh> like, that would make me upset. Yeah. You know? And so it's the same thing with people that come in your life or mad, you know, they're dumping their trash on you. Not because they don't necessarily respect you. They just don't. They don't know how far they can go. So they just throw it all at you. Mm-hmm <affirmative> you know what I mean? Well. They, yeah, they don't because you haven't set the boundary. Yeah. Or the expectation mm-hmm <affirmative> like, Hey, Hey, Hey, this is where I. Yeah. This. Is the farthest. I can go with that. Right. Like don't I don't don't bring that over here. Absolutely. Keep that there. Figure out another avenue, whatever you gotta do. Um, I think sometimes we underestimate how healthy boundaries play a part in our lives. Mm-hmm <affirmative> as far as having a healthy life. Yeah. Especially emotionally for me, that's the big one. Like emotionally allowing people to just dump on you. Not saying that you can't be there for your friends, your loved ones and things of that nature. But you as a human being, especially feelers, like if you're sensitive and you just pick up on people's feelings and you take on things naturally, um, that's a gift that you have, you have to learn how to set boundaries. You have to learn how to set boundaries with people and you have to learn how to set boundaries with yourself. So I would start with myself first and. Say, Hey, yes. What am I going to accept? And what am I not going to accept? Absolutely. And you just have to draw that line into saying and be firm on it, you know, and stand on it. They'll be on the fence about your own boundaries. You know, I think for me as a, a nonconfrontational a lot of things I don't address that I know affects me. Like you, you, you made that point, like, you know, we don't speak on certain things that we, we probably should, or we don't because a lot of us just don't we don't know how to handle it. Mm-hmm <affirmative>, you know, or we don't know how our reaction is gonna affect the relationship with that sad person or whatever in that environment. And so a lot of times we just separate ourselves or we go away quietly and then it'll just continue to happen again and eat, like you said, you get frustrated because it's like, oh my God, like, you don't hear my thoughts. <laugh> yeah. You know what I'm saying? Or. Yeah. People don't know what they don't know. Yeah. Let's keep that in mind. So again, that goes back to clearly communicating. But I do wanna say, especially when you're dealing with toxic people, mm-hmm <affirmative> okay. You have to be, sometimes you can walk away. Yeah. You can remove yourself from a relationship and be okay. Without providing an explanation. Right. Because an explanation, sometimes you may not even have it mm-hmm<affirmative> or may you may not even wanna share it with them. Why, why I'm removing myself and that's okay. They don't deserve an explanation. Right. And given an explanation requires energy. Mm-hmm <affirmative> that you just may not have in that moment. That's it? Okay. So it's, that's a boundary. That's putting a healthy boundary in place and saying, look, I don't have to give you an explanation. Right. Or a boundary that I've put in place for myself, you know? Um, so I just wanted to throw that in there. I don't know why, but. Yeah. That's, I mean, that's good. I got a, a no drama, no, no gossip policy. Like I just don't, he. Don't. He really, I don't like it. I don't like drummer and I don't really like you talking about other people around me. Mm-hmm <affirmative>, especially if I know the other person, like don't put me in that position. Yeah. You know, let me find the information out on my own. Like if, unless it's a red flag and I'm just completely missing and you are letting me know, Hey, you might wanna look out for this mm-hmm<affirmative> but don't come to me. And tomorrow, boy, did you hear about Joe over there?<laugh> he got by full wise and two girlfriend. I don't need to know all that.<laugh> let me find that stuff out on my own. So those are two boundaries that I know I set in any environment and I'm in, like, I just, I don't need that type of energy. Right. You know? And that's good that you know that. Yeah. Like, you know what? You are, what they call that. I know something, I forget what it's called. You just know what works for you and what doesn't. Absolutely. There you go. Guys. Get some healthy boundaries in place. Use them. Yeah. <laugh>. So you've listened to all of this and you're still frustrated. Right? You're still frustrated. Like I what's why. Yeah. Why. I got one more reason. Okay. You may simply be hurting. Yep. And that, I feel like that's a huge one for a lot of people. You're frustrated because there's a, a care within you. There's something in you that that's not healed and God can't heal. What you won't reveal. Come on. Say. That again. He can't heal what you won't reveal. I talk heavily about hurts and how sometimes you got stuff deeply rooted within you. That's that's not uncovered. Mm. You got it covered up. And you know, it's a, it's a protective, um, mechanism, a defense mechanism to keep yourself from mm-hmm <affirmative> experiencing more pain or frustration. Right. But you haven't allowed the holy spirit to come in and provide healing in that area. Right. And I think a lot of hurt people, not only hurt people, but a lot of hurt people are frustrated because they're still hurting. Yeah. And it's a lack of acceptance of truth. It's really the truth about ourselves. It's one of the hardest things for anyone who's frustrated or, or learning something, or you're at a place where you're just, you know, for a lack of better words, frustrated, it's accepting the truth, the truth. And a lot of times the truth comes in instruction in wisdom, in counseling, in guidance, in encouragement, in motivation, all of these things that in the midst of your frustration. Correction. That's it. And correction in the midst of your frustration, the last thing you want is information.<Laugh>. Right. And especially about yourself, you know? And so I go back to the, the bike riding, right? When we first learn how to ride a bike, okay. Balance, you gotta balance yourself. You gotta hold the, the handlebar, right? You gotta pedal. You have to maintain your speed. Right. All of those things. But if I continue to fall and you're steady telling me these things, and my results are not changing as fast as I want them to, then you're gonna stay in that unhealed in that frustrated place, because you're getting the truth, but you're not necessarily accepting the truth. And then once you accept the truth, then you're unable to apply the truth. And I think that's the gap between acceptance and application. Is frustration. Mm. Cuz you just can't, you haven't got it yet. Yep. And that is a oh man. That was good. That's a huge one because I'm thinking about the obstacles sometimes that we're hit with in life. Mm. Um, and how, when something's continuously seems like it's just knocking you down, knocking you down, like those cycles. Right. Mm-hmm <affirmative> and, and there's so many underlying lessons that can be taught to you within those, within the fire. Right? Right. We talk about the fire mm-hmm <affirmative> but how be refined mm-hmm<affirmative> in that process. Mm-hmm <affirmative> what is God trying to teach me? I keep getting knocked back down, but I keep trying to get back up. Right? If you keep getting knocked back down one, you ain't got something yet something's missing, something's missing you. Something's missing off. Yeah. Or God is building endurance in you come on, he's building up that endurance. Right. That resistance resistance is a, huh. That, that resistance will frustrate you. Like this hurts, this hurts, you know, but what you gotta look at, and, and this is where perspective and having a transformed mind and being, being able to think from a different perspective helps it's like, okay, God, in the midst of all this, this hurting, you know, in the midst of these obstacles and this frustration, God, what are you teaching me? Right. How are you refining me into your image? Come on. How am I being made more like the son of, of God, Jesus Christ. Mm-hmm <affirmative> yeah. Many times he got knocked down. Well, he got one huge knockdown. That was enough. But I'm just saying like Jesus learned things through things that he suffered. Yep. He learned things through frustration. Like how do we not expect to live out? Yeah. The a life just like I thank you, Lord. I think about everything that we go through. Jesus knows mm-hmm <affirmative> he cares he's he's equated with our feelings. Right, right. He's equated with that stuff. But here's the thing about Christ. He's he's equated with our feelings when we're navigating these harsh seasons and frustration and things of that nature, but he's only obligated mm-hmm <affirmative> to So here's another lesson that you can learn when you're frustrated is what's coming outta your mouth. Come on. What are you speaking? When the frustration, you know, flares, its ugly head. What are you speaking? Are you speaking death? Are you speaking life? Right? Are you learning how to put the word of God in your mouth and in your heart? Are you calling those things that are not as though they are? Yep. Like I believe we miss the, the fact that all of these things that we go through in life, like we are not gonna live a, a perfect life, right? Where there's just no pain. There's no frustration. There's no, you know, anything, death, whatever it's God is doing. He's he's perfecting us. He's maturing us. Mm-hmm <affirmative> we wanna be mature, strong believers and Christians. We don't wanna be weak. And we don't want to succumb to frustration and succumb to defeat. Right. And succumb to these negative emotions. Right. That aren't meant to rule us or guide us in life. We want to use them as stepping stones, as tools to say, okay, God, you're trying to show me something. You're trying to teach me something. Turn that negative into a positive, allow God to transform it, turn it into something positive. That's good. Cause God ain't going. He ain't going. He ain't gonna remove that thing until you get it. He's not gonna remove that obstacle. Like a thorn in your side. For real. But that's the thing it's can, can is God working something in you and through you that you just can't see right. In that frustration, what is God trying to change? Yeah. I would dare to say that in the midst of our frustration, God is trying to solidify the gift that he's giving you. Because the things that frustrates us the most were gifted to help. Not only ourselves get unrested, but to help others who may be frustrated in that same thing. Mm-hmm <affirmative> so he's maturing you, but he's building you to Edify, right? And to be an asset to the body of Christ. Mm-hmm <affirmative> to the unbelievers. To the, yeah.<Laugh> you know, your life becomes your living testimony. You become the word alive, walking in and living it out. Some people may never pick up a Bible. You may be the only Bible they see. And if you don't learn how to navigate seasons of frustration, if you don't know how to navigate obstacles, that continue to show up in your life and you don't allow God to transform your mind and your thinking and your feelings and your emotions and everything about you, then you miss the opportunity to be, I don't like to say used by God, but to be transformed by God, for your good and for the good of others and his glory. All right, you guys. So we hope something that was said today, spoke life into your current, you know, circumstance or situation, whatever you may be going through. We just want you to know that we're praying for you, praying with you and that we love you. So thank you guys for listening to this episode and we look forward to speaking with you again on the next episode of building. With the Browns Browns.